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For the past half a year, I have been in a project with two other colleagues: an assistant professor and a teaching assistant. Prof. Duan is our boss, who is middle-aged and full of passion.  When he invited me in to work with them and asked for my personal opinions about the research, I felt trust in him. So I took it. However, he ceased to praise me since the team first met. I would like to think that he is strict with everybody and inclines to keep bossy face on. But that he keeps praising the other colleague really turns me down. He "offially" told me that he took her as his "adopted daughter", and he never hides his appreciation for her dress or comments. What he invests in her is what he ignores in me. I have been confident, being nice to others, and very aware of keeping myself professional. Yet, I am truly deflated now.  Today, when the team meets again, he repeatedly threw out nice words about her, I was more hurt than disappointed. I don't know what I did wrong.

I think someone is having the same problem as me. And the following tips might help you as they did to me.

How To Deal With A Difficult Boss

By Tristan Loo

1. Know that you can do little to change them. Being a difficult person is part of their personality and therefore it is a very difficult, if not impossible thing to change in a supervisor, so don’t think that you can change how they act. Instead, change the way that you view their behavior. Don’t label them as being a jerk--just merely label them as your boss. By avoiding derogatory labeling, you avoid making it easy on yourself to be angry with your boss.

2. Keep your professional face on. Know the difference between not liking your boss and not being professional. You don’t have to make your boss your friend or even like your boss as a person, but you do have to remain professional and get the job done and carry out their instructions dutifully as a subordinate, just as you would expect them to be professional as do their duties as a supervisor.

3. Evaluate your own performance. Before you go attacking your boss, examine your own performance and ask yourself if you are doing everything right. Get opinions from other coworkers about your performance and see if there is any warrant to the criticisms of your supervisor before you criticize their opinions.

4. Document everything. If you choose to stay with a toxic employer, then document everything. This will become your main ammunition should a complaint ever be filed down the road. Document interactions with them as well as your own activities so that you can remind them of your own achievements at performance review time.

5. Leave work at work. Get into the habit of leaving work at home and not bringing it into your personal life because that will only add to your level of stress. Keep your professional life separate from your personal life as best as you can. This also includes having friends who you don’t work with so that you can detach yourself from your work life rather than bringing it home with you.

Wear a smile then!!!

     明天就要去往外地过几天了，出门前的一天最为无聊，常常会不经大脑思考做事。

     输入你的个人信息，找出四页资料，好多都是在同一个网站的留言，几乎全都关于我。

     输入自己的，竟然可以看到博客资料，可以读到所有的博文，顿时觉得好恐怖，如果你看到我的博文怎么办。

     你的留言都很直白，表达清晰，意图明显。

     我的文章都很委婉，力图完美，却显矫情。

     你想要干什么，想要问什么，都会直接给出，没有调侃，只有认真。

     我则情感抒发不断，逗笑不止，誓言满满，最后还是迷茫不知所向。

     我们的记述方式竟然如此不同，就像我们的个性和生活。你不拐弯，不妥协，要就是要，行就是行。我则照顾周到，委曲求全，容易被感动，也容易淡忘。

     我曾以为我的个性多么好，一直劝你要周全，要乐观，现在看来也未见得如此。依然活在憧憬和迷茫中的我，再次看到你的坚定时，竟然有种期待。

     生活造就了我们。我不可能回到从前，以我现在喜欢的形象来改变自己。我已成形。

     总以为是你错过了我，总认为是你的遗憾。

     其实，我何尝不是错过了你呢。不然，哪里会有这么多年的难过和不舍，一直要抽身过自己的日子的人，哪里会这样动不动就要上来理清一下思绪，才可以回到生活中去闭上眼睛。

     从洗手间的窗口看到和你一般身材的人从楼下走过，就要一直看到他从视野里消失才会把目光移开；听到第一次在高中教室里听到的歌曲，就心里感慨不断。每次这样之后，就会怪自己。

     这么多年来只把一件事做到了底，就是没有忘记你。

     失败还是成功？

     想起读研的时候去听过的一场学院组织的同传公司招生推介会，台上的同传老师很年轻，出生于澳洲，有双语背景，大学和研究生时都学的是金融，辅修法律，因为对同传感兴趣，所以将其作为自己的职业。台下的学生很是兴奋，纷纷要老师现场表演，这位老师拿起报纸选了一段地理方面的文字，很快地翻译成英文，学生极为佩服。

     记得我当时坐在这些学生当中，心想着一年后我将毕业寻找工作。同传是我非常熟悉的职业，有心往之却又觉得难度极大。但是那种巅峰体验总能让我觉得兴奋。可是，看着台上的这位老师，面如扑克牌，从头到尾都不曾笑过，而且掷地有声地说"Being an interpreter is like being a machine"(同传如机器)。这句通用的评价同传的话，在那一会儿浇灭了我内心的渴望。

     一年后，毕业，艰难地找工作，失去信心，再来过，最后意外地被一所国家重点大学相中，就此开始教书生涯，至今已经快三年。

     每天必看两个博客，一个是我的偶像，Yvonne，另一个是闹闹，今天又增加了一个，非空。

    Yvonne  同传，无比有激情，无比热爱生活，专业一流。

    闹闹 看过之后相信，不信闹闹，你就不会幸福。最欣赏的是闹闹以玩味的态度分析星座，语言有一种不渲染的感染力。

    非空  室内设计师，设计地中海风格无数，收费不低，但是细节成就英雄，创意太牛B。

    我心爱的这些偶像，没有一个在过着行尸走肉的生活，每一个都爱着自己的工作，并对自己要求非常严格。让我钦佩。

    虽然我还会犯网瘾，虽然我常常不知道自己该往何处去，虽然我对生活、爱情总是迷惘，但是我知道，我的生活值得我去爱。

    不论是带着一群大小孩子学习，还是坚持学习英文以提高专业水准，我都爱着我所为。

    每当想起那一张扑克牌的脸，我就告诉自己，如果你真的做着你感兴趣的事情，那就多换几个角度去看它，或许你会有更多的收获。

      看到晚清时期建立各个外语学堂的初衷，是为了在西方侵略时能够抵挡得住，洋务派认为必须大力引进西学，采用西方文明的方法来改变中国，而倭仁为代表的守旧派则认为遭侵略的原因是纲常混乱，必须整顿思想。一贯的研究都对倭仁等的“守旧”思想投去石块，而对洋务派的革新理念大加支持。

     倭仁等对于时局的判断确实有误，若不强不反，中国面临的是灭顶之灾，但是，他们所认为的“纲常混乱”，必须予以整治的想法就一定错了吗？

     如果西方各国真的懂得“文明”，那么为什么还会以极其野蛮甚至残忍的方式侵略他国？既然西方“人权至上”，那么为什么还会杀害大量无辜的人？这样的“文明”，根本就不文明！

      西方所谓的文明，其实是在“物竞天择，适者生存”的达尔文思想基础上逐渐发展的思想而已吧，这样的理念导致“弱肉强食”的状况，导致全球绝大多数国家受到侵略，还要忍受着他们标榜的“将文明带至全球各处”。

      晚清洋务学堂的开办，在西方文明的认知上打开了一个缺口，从这个缺口流进来的，是承载着充满血腥味的文明的各类学识。从此，中国的学生所接受的教育，将永远与几千年来沉淀的“仁”相背离。

      希望中国永远都不要称霸，更不要在强大之后去侵略他国，希望中国的文明在经过了又一个千年之后，能更加文明。

　　吃了两个星期的鲜果餐啦，从前最爱吃的猪肉牛肉羊肉也完全退到二线以外，白天阳光太大的时候基本不出门，狂喝水。

　　昨晚看电视发呆，妈妈起身去洗澡，目光在我脸上扫了一下，突然瞳仁扩大，用一种很细的声音问我：你今天涂了什么东西？呃，除了每天都用一用爽肤水和露，那些上班时必用的ＢＢ霜和腮红我都没碰，而且，这两天还正好在生理期，皮肤不是应该有点黄黄的吗？

　　你的皮肤真的看上去很好耶！妈妈的声音完全出脱了躯壳。

　　想了一想，既然护肤品和保养品的使用率被减至最低，那应该只有吃的东西才能带来这种奇效了。

　　给个公式来：

　　早餐：水＋素面点＋嫩煎鸡蛋＋水果

　　中餐：一碗米饭＋大盘鲜炒蔬菜＋肉菜中的素菜＋丁点肉

　　晚餐同中餐

　　零食：baby番茄，香蕉，桃子，苹果

　　护肤品：旁氏的美白水＋雅诗兰黛的眼霜＋欧莱雅的补水凝露

　　比重相较：入口的食物分量〉护肤品分量

　不像很多喜欢吃沙拉的mm，我的口味不排斥蔬菜沙拉，但是也不天然地喜欢，让我整天吃不爱吃的东西来减肥，那我宁愿不要减。另外，吃饭一定要慢慢慢，我之前是个天底下最爱吃饭的人，三碗饭下肚还可以到饭锅里再去舀一勺直接送进嘴里，边嚼边说好香好香，自从智齿闹发炎之后，没办法两边嚼，自然就慢了下来，现在发现还真好，因为一碗下肚之后，我差不多已经饱了，应该就是传说中七分饱的感觉吧。

　想要在这个夏季改变自己的ｍｍ一起来来吧！